He’ll Be the Judge 

I don’t even know how to begin this, and it’s been awhile since I’ve posted. I had to get a few thing off my mind, but I was thinking and going over stuff and the thing that kept coming back was 

Matthew 7:1 “Do not judge, or you shall be judged” 

Sure, I understand that everyone has judged something, including myself, whether that was an opinion or a person. I am not perfect and I never will be, nobody is. You have to see that it’s okay to not be perfect. You will make choices, and say things that are wrong, but God loves and he forgives. YOU ARE HIS CHILD.

For me I grew up hearing “sticks and stone may break my bones, but words will never hurt me” and I can not say how big of a LIE that saying is. WORDS DO HURT, THE IMPACT LIVES. Gossip/Rumors would be the biggest problem that involves words.

All throughout your life, you will be judged. You will go through gossip and you might even learn things about you that you didn’t know about yourself 😜 aka: rumors!!!!!!!! Don’t believe everything you hear, always ask the person it’s about if you really wanna know. 

Gossip is awful. Words and things that are said about people hurt. I’ve been through that, but when I learned that the only reason that was happening was because of jealousy or hate I decided that I was so over letting people hurt me. I didn’t care what they thought, I only care what God thinks. He is the only judge in my life. 

Yes, I have gossiped before. I have talked about people and said some hurtful things. I never saw or felt how bad those words could hurt until I was the one being talked about. 

Matthew 5:44 says “Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you”

I was body shamed, had rumors spread about me, friends that I thought I could trust.. talked about me. The words and ideas that were said hurt. They changed me. I hated my body, I hated the things that were said. I knew they weren’t true, but the more I heard it the more I began to let it impact me. When I let go and understood that they were trying to hurt me, was when I stopped letting it hurt me.. they would not win. 

I began to realize that I had said hurtful words too, and I decided to make a change. Now if I catch myself gossiping, I stop. You never know what someone is going through, or how much more they can take. Just be nice. 

Romans 2:1 says “You, therefore, have no excuse, you who pass judgment on someone for at whatever point you judge another, are condemning yourself because you who pass judgment are doing the same” 

WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE. What right do you have to judge one another?? Worry about yourself and your life, not someone else because in my opinion if you have people talking about you then you must be doing something right for them to waste their time thinking about you. 🤷🏼‍♀️

A few tips:

  • Worry about your character, not your reputation. Your character says who you are as a person, it’s you, while your reputation is what people think you are. 
  • Turn the other cheek. Just ignore them, they want to hurt you and get under your skin. When people see that you’re not bothered, they will not get the satisfaction they want. 
  • RETALIATION IS NOT THE KEY. 🚫❌ You’re giving them the go that what they said or the rumor they started got to you. You’re showing them weakness. 
  • Last, Kill them with KINDNESS. This totally might be the hardest thing i’ve done, but it’s so efficient. They want you to be hurt and be mean back, so instead just ignore or say “oh thanks, by the way your outfit looks cute today” and watch their reaction to that one. 

My biggest reminder I want you to remember is that; the only judge that truly matters is God. He should be the opinion you are worried about. Live your life completely for him, and I promise you will see a change❤️ He’s a good good father. 

A few more versus about judging/gossip

  • Romans 14:30
  • Matthew 7:3
  • 1 Corinthians 15:33
  • Ephesians 4:29 
  • James 3:3-6 

s t r e n g t h

All my life, and I’m sure yours as well, I have heard “toughen up” or “stop complaining, it could be worse”. You never really think when it’s wrong to tell someone that. When is someone actually at a weak point in their life? Are you making it worse or are you trying to make it better?

In life you go through struggles, you have bad days or maybe bad weeks, but you get through them and learn to put them in the past. You’re strong enough to know to forget it  and just move on, but what do you do when you feel like you can’t move on. What are you going to do when you feel as if your life has ended and you have no where to go? Are  you strong enough to get through this?

Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”

There you have it, you are strong enough, but who am I to tell you to be strong without going through something that requires me to be strong myself. I’ll tell you my story. It required every ounce of strength for me to be strong and continue, but look here I am.

Everything was going great, basically a normal life for most kids. I woke up, went to school and did the usual stuff. I thought nothing could ever go wrong, I thought I was indestructible. Heck, the worst thing I had going on at the time was making a bad grade or not having the “perfect outfit” that was required in the 8th grade. It all changed for me, my whole life from this day on was flipped.

October 2012. I was sitting in history class after another normal day when I got called to the office. Usually, my mom would’ve told me if I was gonna leave early, but this day she hadn’t. Both my parents were waiting for me outside the office, along with my siblings and my cousin’s son. I never thought anything of it, my dad must just be off work and they are watching my cousin; maybe they wanted to take me out to lunch. When my dad asked my older brother, Hayden, to take the kids to the car and then sat me down, I could feel the mood change. They began to tell me that my cousin Bailey had passed away. The news went in one ear and out the other, I hadn’t allowed myself to process and understand what I had just been told. I had no emotion. October 2012, my cousin Bailey committed suicide.

My life was a complete roller coaster, I somewhat knew it always would be from here on out, but on November 2013, my life had flipped once again. Sitting in the living room together as a family, my dad jumped up and ran out the door. He yelled it was an emergency and for us to stay put. This day my grandfather had passed away from a massive heart attack. Nobody saw it coming, and nobody could stop it. I had been through hell on earth in a matter of 1 year.

By this time, if you want honesty, I was weak. I had no emotion because I had just began to get the effects of my cousins death. I had never understood what was about to take place in my life, until my freshman year, it hit me. All my emotions attacked me, and I had no idea of how I could help myself. I knew that I wasn’t strong, I wasn’t sure how I was gonna get through this until I gave it to God.

Isaiah 40:29 says, “He gives strength to the weak and increases the power in them”

Just because I felt like I had been through something that I could never get over I knew I couldn’t lose myself. God had given me one of my toughest battles knowing I COULD GET THROUGH IT . I had to remember that, I had to remember that I am going to be strong because I have been weak.

I gave it all to God, I let go and gave him my struggles. Knowing that I had lost two of the most important people in my life, knowing that there were no more dinner dates and car rides, or advice from my grandpa was hard. I called on God and asked for strength through this. 

Psalm 28: 7-8 says, “The Lord is my strength and my shield, I trust in him and he helps me.

If you feel as if you are weak and you have no way out; follow these few tips that helped me,

  • LET GO AND LET GOD
  • Always be positive, even if the situation is hard
  • Stay Calm
  • Change your outlook on the situation
  • Use the 3 rule.

– The 3 Rule is something that I have started telling myself. If it won’t matter in 3 minutes, 3 hours, 3 days, 3 years then why let it matter and impact you right now? Why put yourself through those emotions knowing that they won’t be there later on.

A few of my favorite versus about strength are:

  • Psalm 46:1
  • Ephesians 3:16
  • Psalm 118:42
  • Habbakuh 3:19

I know I wrote my story based more so on the sadness, but God will provide you strength through it all. School, work, sports and even just living everyday, HE IS T H E R E FOR YOU. He hears your prayer and he will heal you. ❤

Isaiah 40:31 “but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar like wings on eagle; they will run and not grow weary.”

 


Bailey Day

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When you wake up in the morning and look at yourself, what do you see? What do you say about yourself? Do you love you for you, or are you being someone you’re not to impress someone else? We live in a world where being you is weird and different, but being someone you’re not is so called “fake”

Yes, I know. Trust me, and I’ll be 100% honest with you. I do not love everything about myself. I could make a list about things I would love to change, but when I begin to think about what I wanna look like, it doesn’t even look like me anymore. Social media has been a big impact on the view I have for myself. We see the perfectly photoshopped side of the models, who are portrayed as perfect and what every boy wants. We see the big butts, and big boobs, small waist and never do they have any flaws. God did not make us to look “slim thick” he made us to look exactly how he wanted.

Being you is beautiful. This morning I woke up and went to school with absolutely no makeup and natural straight as a board hair. These happen to be my favorite days, but don’t get me wrong, I also love to get dressed up and experiment with my makeup and hair. The key factor to this part of being you is DOING IT FOR YOU AND ONLY YOU! I do not wake up in the morning to impress anyone but myself because who am I kidding, I could care less what someone has to say about what I look like.

1 John 3:1 says ” How great is it knowing we are God’s child”

We are the greatest creation God has made and we are all DIFFERENT AND UNIQUE. 1 Corinthians 12: 14-20 talks about how God placed each and every body part on each and every human exactly where he wanted it, even down to the tiny little freckles you may have on you somewhere. He placed it there with a purpose and a reason. How cool is that?!

Loving yourself and how you look is an important part of your health and I know one thing we all do… compare ourselves to others. It’s okay, I have done it too. Someone is either prettier, has something better, is more fit then you and even might just be more popular than you, but the truth is; someone will always be better than you at something. You just have to accept it, but that doesn’t make you any less of a person, it doesn’t make you any less beautiful.

Psalm 139:14 says “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are beautiful”

God right there, in that single verse has called you fearful, wonderful and beautiful. YOU are his work, YOU are his masterpiece. 💞

A few more versus dealing with self love or confidence:

  • Ephesian 2:10
  • Genesis 1:27
  • Ephesian 1:4
  • Hebrews 10:35-36

The beginning of high school for me was rough. I had little confidence, I didn’t hate myself and I never have, but I didn’t feel the best about myself as I do now. My first mistake was my friends. I had friends who instead of helping me love me for me, agreed with the things that I didn’t enjoy. A major tip for you is to find yourself friends who love you for you. Who help you grow as the person you are and want to be by your side through all your challenges, not just your ups in life. A major reminder is; if you have to change to be their friend or to fit in. YOU DO NOT BELONG THERE.

A few more tips I have for you that I did for myself are:

  • Standing in front of the mirror every morning and telling myself that I am beautiful and that I am God’s masterpiece. THERE IS NOBODY LIKE ME.
  • Point out everything you love about yourself, tell yourself that you love it.
  • Point out the things you do not like and remind yourself that those things make you, you. You have no flaws in God’s eyes.
  • Tell yourself that you are LOVED, you are WANTED and that you are IMPORTANT.
  • Leave notes around your room, even make your room just the way you want it, something that symbolizes you.

 

GOD IS YOUR ONLY JUDGE and he will love you no matter what you look like or what you feel. You are his creation and you are his work of art. Never let yourself forget that.

1 Samuel 16:17 says, “for a man looks at the appearance while the Lord looks at the heart”

Why let something change you when you know how valuable you truly are. Be unique and always be yourself. Remember to smile because you are truly worth a million bucks. 😍

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