All my life, and I’m sure yours as well, I have heard “toughen up” or “stop complaining, it could be worse”. You never really think when it’s wrong to tell someone that. When is someone actually at a weak point in their life? Are you making it worse or are you trying to make it better?
In life you go through struggles, you have bad days or maybe bad weeks, but you get through them and learn to put them in the past. You’re strong enough to know to forget it and just move on, but what do you do when you feel like you can’t move on. What are you going to do when you feel as if your life has ended and you have no where to go? Are you strong enough to get through this?
Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”
There you have it, you are strong enough, but who am I to tell you to be strong without going through something that requires me to be strong myself. I’ll tell you my story. It required every ounce of strength for me to be strong and continue, but look here I am.
Everything was going great, basically a normal life for most kids. I woke up, went to school and did the usual stuff. I thought nothing could ever go wrong, I thought I was indestructible. Heck, the worst thing I had going on at the time was making a bad grade or not having the “perfect outfit” that was required in the 8th grade. It all changed for me, my whole life from this day on was flipped.
October 2012. I was sitting in history class after another normal day when I got called to the office. Usually, my mom would’ve told me if I was gonna leave early, but this day she hadn’t. Both my parents were waiting for me outside the office, along with my siblings and my cousin’s son. I never thought anything of it, my dad must just be off work and they are watching my cousin; maybe they wanted to take me out to lunch. When my dad asked my older brother, Hayden, to take the kids to the car and then sat me down, I could feel the mood change. They began to tell me that my cousin Bailey had passed away. The news went in one ear and out the other, I hadn’t allowed myself to process and understand what I had just been told. I had no emotion. October 2012, my cousin Bailey committed suicide.
My life was a complete roller coaster, I somewhat knew it always would be from here on out, but on November 2013, my life had flipped once again. Sitting in the living room together as a family, my dad jumped up and ran out the door. He yelled it was an emergency and for us to stay put. This day my grandfather had passed away from a massive heart attack. Nobody saw it coming, and nobody could stop it. I had been through hell on earth in a matter of 1 year.
By this time, if you want honesty, I was weak. I had no emotion because I had just began to get the effects of my cousins death. I had never understood what was about to take place in my life, until my freshman year, it hit me. All my emotions attacked me, and I had no idea of how I could help myself. I knew that I wasn’t strong, I wasn’t sure how I was gonna get through this until I gave it to God.
Isaiah 40:29 says, “He gives strength to the weak and increases the power in them”
Just because I felt like I had been through something that I could never get over I knew I couldn’t lose myself. God had given me one of my toughest battles knowing I COULD GET THROUGH IT . I had to remember that, I had to remember that I am going to be strong because I have been weak.
I gave it all to God, I let go and gave him my struggles. Knowing that I had lost two of the most important people in my life, knowing that there were no more dinner dates and car rides, or advice from my grandpa was hard. I called on God and asked for strength through this.
Psalm 28: 7-8 says, “The Lord is my strength and my shield, I trust in him and he helps me.
If you feel as if you are weak and you have no way out; follow these few tips that helped me,
- LET GO AND LET GOD
- Always be positive, even if the situation is hard
- Stay Calm
- Change your outlook on the situation
- Use the 3 rule.
– The 3 Rule is something that I have started telling myself. If it won’t matter in 3 minutes, 3 hours, 3 days, 3 years then why let it matter and impact you right now? Why put yourself through those emotions knowing that they won’t be there later on.
A few of my favorite versus about strength are:
- Psalm 46:1
- Ephesians 3:16
- Psalm 118:42
- Habbakuh 3:19
I know I wrote my story based more so on the sadness, but God will provide you strength through it all. School, work, sports and even just living everyday, HE IS T H E R E FOR YOU. He hears your prayer and he will heal you. ❤
Isaiah 40:31 “but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar like wings on eagle; they will run and not grow weary.”