I am what I am. 

I am what I am. 

Have you ever wanted to be someone you’re not, like literally, have you ever wanted to not be you? I have, and it’s the worst. You constantly hate yourself and feel like you’re not enough to someone or even just to yourself. 

I hated that feeling. Being in a time where anything and everything I did never felt good enough or like I fit in was rough. I tore myself up about it time after time to be someone I am not cut out to be. Until I read 

1 Corinthians 15:10 “by the grace of God. I am what I am.” 

I am who I am because God made me this way. I am a blogger because God called me to spread his word through my words and writing. 

It’s hard to understand some things He had planned for me, but I learn to understand that He has this plan that will make me the person I am supposed to be. Even if it’s not something I want to happen, I have to learn to understand and know that it’s for a reason. Example could be maybe not getting into the college you wanted or not getting the job you wanted. God doesn’t have your life planned out there or doing that, you have to trust Him.

I can’t say it enough. YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE BY THE GRACE OF GOD. And He loves you so so much. So never forget even when times get hard that you are fearful and wonderful and God had the greatest plan made for you, you just have to let Him take the wheel and live for Him. The way he made you, not as someone else. ❤️

XoXo Han 💗

3 D A Y S 

3 D A Y S 

3 days. 3 hours. 3 minutes. 3 seconds. It’s simple, took me forever to learn, but once I finally made this rule for myself…  my life took a turn. 

Being a girl is always said to be so difficult because girls can be so mean. 🤕 (yes guys can be mean too) Girls have drama and love to bring each other down.. when in reality we all are the same. We go through the same things and we all have feelings. So my question is: Why do we continue to hurt each other when we know what it has felt like to be on the other end? 

Growing up, especially through middle school and the beginning of high school I took gossip to the heart. The words I heard about me absolutely killed me each time, even when i knew they weren’t true. I wanted people to like me, not talk about me.  I would come home crying when I had bad days and my mom would always just say “why do you care so much about what others say?” Why did I care so much? Popularity? Reputation? Acceptance?? 

When I finally broke down and asked myself why I cared so much, I couldn’t come up with an answer. It was never truly hurting my life, sure I had bad days and often felt sad, but was I dying? Was I truly so hurt that it impacted how my life was gonna turn out and the plan God has in store for me? This is when I brought the 3-Rule into my life and it’s the best choice I’ve made


If it’s not going to impact you’re life in 3 days, why let it impact your life in the next 3 seconds or even the moment it was happening? 

Why ever let someone take your happiness away to try and make happiness for themselves by hurting you? 

After I took this in, I began to see the world and society so different. When things happened I thought before I reacted. I choose happiness. I didn’t care what was being said anymore because I know what is true and what is not and why does it matter?  I want you to choose happiness. Don’t let someone bring you down so they can raise up, instead brush it off. It’s not that big and you’re alive and breathing so be happy. 


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• k i n d n e s s •

• k i n d n e s s •

Have you ever been told that being ugly makes you ugly? I have and I agree 100%. You can be the prettiest girl in the whole world and have it all, but if you have an ugly heart and you’re not kind.. that takes it all away. 

Since I was little bitty, I was taught to Kill with Kindness no matter what. Growing up you deal with mean people. You might have even been bullied, it’s just part of life. I was and even when I came home crying my mom and dad told me to be nice and kind to them. When they were mean to me, I was to be nice and say something kind to them right then. I NEVER UNDERSTOOD THIS. I just wanted to be mean right back and even just punch them in the face, but I was kind. 

To this day, I follow this. I saw myself and other people who were kind and it truly makes someone 10X better. I felt prettier and even more Christ like.

Sure, it’s easy to be kind to someone who can give you something in return right? Maybe a teacher who will give you a good grade, or a friend who will get you a gift. This isn’t what I am talking about, being kind and being kind are so different. God wants you to be kind to your enemies, and those who hate along with those who are kind and those who love. He wants his kindness to shine through you. 

Proverbs 31:8-9 says ” Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves. Defend the poor and the needy.” 

God wants us to be kind and loving. You don’t want people to see you being mean all the time and being rude to people, but then turning around with a speaking about God. That doesn’t add up, God is not hate. God is love. 

I know it’s hard to be nice 100% and honestly I think that is impossible. That is okay, don’t put yourself down if you said one rude thing. We are not perfect and we make mistakes, we’re human. Instead, apologize to who (even if this is yourself) you were rude to. Then work harder on not doing that again, instead if you want to say something mean.. walk away. Don’t speak or just say “okay.” Just be kind. 

Being kind will make you pretty. A kind face and kind heart are what people want. So the next time you feel the need to be mean and ugly, remember…. Kindness makes you pretty and being rude ruins it all. 

XOXO Han 💗

s t r e n g t h

All my life, and I’m sure yours as well, I have heard “toughen up” or “stop complaining, it could be worse”. You never really think when it’s wrong to tell someone that. When is someone actually at a weak point in their life? Are you making it worse or are you trying to make it better?

In life you go through struggles, you have bad days or maybe bad weeks, but you get through them and learn to put them in the past. You’re strong enough to know to forget it  and just move on, but what do you do when you feel like you can’t move on. What are you going to do when you feel as if your life has ended and you have no where to go? Are  you strong enough to get through this?

Philippians 4:13 says, “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”

There you have it, you are strong enough, but who am I to tell you to be strong without going through something that requires me to be strong myself. I’ll tell you my story. It required every ounce of strength for me to be strong and continue, but look here I am.

Everything was going great, basically a normal life for most kids. I woke up, went to school and did the usual stuff. I thought nothing could ever go wrong, I thought I was indestructible. Heck, the worst thing I had going on at the time was making a bad grade or not having the “perfect outfit” that was required in the 8th grade. It all changed for me, my whole life from this day on was flipped.

October 2012. I was sitting in history class after another normal day when I got called to the office. Usually, my mom would’ve told me if I was gonna leave early, but this day she hadn’t. Both my parents were waiting for me outside the office, along with my siblings and my cousin’s son. I never thought anything of it, my dad must just be off work and they are watching my cousin; maybe they wanted to take me out to lunch. When my dad asked my older brother, Hayden, to take the kids to the car and then sat me down, I could feel the mood change. They began to tell me that my cousin Bailey had passed away. The news went in one ear and out the other, I hadn’t allowed myself to process and understand what I had just been told. I had no emotion. October 2012, my cousin Bailey committed suicide.

My life was a complete roller coaster, I somewhat knew it always would be from here on out, but on November 2013, my life had flipped once again. Sitting in the living room together as a family, my dad jumped up and ran out the door. He yelled it was an emergency and for us to stay put. This day my grandfather had passed away from a massive heart attack. Nobody saw it coming, and nobody could stop it. I had been through hell on earth in a matter of 1 year.

By this time, if you want honesty, I was weak. I had no emotion because I had just began to get the effects of my cousins death. I had never understood what was about to take place in my life, until my freshman year, it hit me. All my emotions attacked me, and I had no idea of how I could help myself. I knew that I wasn’t strong, I wasn’t sure how I was gonna get through this until I gave it to God.

Isaiah 40:29 says, “He gives strength to the weak and increases the power in them”

Just because I felt like I had been through something that I could never get over I knew I couldn’t lose myself. God had given me one of my toughest battles knowing I COULD GET THROUGH IT . I had to remember that, I had to remember that I am going to be strong because I have been weak.

I gave it all to God, I let go and gave him my struggles. Knowing that I had lost two of the most important people in my life, knowing that there were no more dinner dates and car rides, or advice from my grandpa was hard. I called on God and asked for strength through this. 

Psalm 28: 7-8 says, “The Lord is my strength and my shield, I trust in him and he helps me.

If you feel as if you are weak and you have no way out; follow these few tips that helped me,

  • Always be positive, even if the situation is hard
  • Stay Calm
  • Change your outlook on the situation
  • Use the 3 rule.

– The 3 Rule is something that I have started telling myself. If it won’t matter in 3 minutes, 3 hours, 3 days, 3 years then why let it matter and impact you right now? Why put yourself through those emotions knowing that they won’t be there later on.

A few of my favorite versus about strength are:

  • Psalm 46:1
  • Ephesians 3:16
  • Psalm 118:42
  • Habbakuh 3:19

I know I wrote my story based more so on the sadness, but God will provide you strength through it all. School, work, sports and even just living everyday, HE IS T H E R E FOR YOU. He hears your prayer and he will heal you. ❤

Isaiah 40:31 “but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar like wings on eagle; they will run and not grow weary.”


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